Sunday Morning - “Be you”
I often find myself sharing the same advice to many different people, in many different situations; embrace who you are, be aware of how you feel, know it is okay and then you can start examining what you would like to work on. I often hear “I wish I didn’t feel that way” or “I wish I didn’t react that way” but what we have to realize is that we grew up in a family, in a town, at a time, in an environment that all affected who we are and how we feel, react and process things today. We are made imperfect, so we all start from the same place. We all have the time to become aware of who we are and why we feel what we feel. We may be different and on a different path from those we know, but we discover things we wish were different about ourselves. To me, becoming aware of oneself is success. Once we have knowledge of ourselves, we can then focus on changing/overcoming anything we may want to change about ourselves. I recently sent his reply to a dear friend;
I care about you and truly want you to know that what you are feeling is ok to feel! At one point it your situation was really bad and that focused you. Now, you are healing and have the ability to wonder, ponder and you, like us all, are made imperfect. You would not be normal to not feel what you are feeling. Give yourself permission to feel what you feel. Then work on praying for clarity. Answers, good feelings, clarity all happen in time. Give yourself that time. Put positive thoughts (or do your best to try) into your head. Over time, you will win - as you ALWAYS have in the past.
I am right; always am when it comes to giving advice to friends (see last message). I have known you along time and have seen YOU accomplish more than most. But you have always been hard on yourself, thinking you should/could do more. Expectations lead to frustation. That is what you are feeling. Lose expectations of how you should feel, what you should or shouldn’t be doing and have/find peace simply doing your best to appreciate whatever you have “right now, in this moment” and in time this too shall pass…
We will have good days and we will have bad days, moments we enjoy and moments that test our very being. If we were perfect we would never need to question, reflect, change or pray :-)
peace & God bless
tjd
