Sunday Morning - “Still Affected”
Good morning, I hope this finds you smiling :-)
My sister Tami’s life has greatly affected me. So has her passing. I would not want it any other way.
My other sister made a statement when she was sharing about Tami and it hasn’t left me since. I have been wanting/needing to write about it, but have never been able to start. She said she had memories of when we were kids and memories of the last eight years. The in between time was kind of a blur with no real special memories. When we were kids we were a family in a home. Eight years ago is when Tami first got sick. It really hit me and I have been reflecting on it a lot. Without Tami getting sick, would we as a family have gathered as much, worked as hard to see each other, traveled as much, and surrounded Tami like we did? We’ll never know. But what is known is that Tami last eight years were in many ways the best eight years of our family’s time together.
What was truly sad was the other drama that happened during Tami’s funeral. It’s as if the family started loosing that thing that held us together immediately, that thing, Tami being sick. At the end of my first marriage someone told me “When death happens, it either draws you nearer or breaks you a part.” Truer words were never spoken.
I have stated many times that life is going too give you certain cards to play. Embrace your hand. Right, wrong good or bad, you MUST make the best out of your hand. Not try to exchange your cards for someone else’s cards. Not complain about why your neighbor, sister, friend has better cards than yours. Trust me, they don’t. Their cards are different, but they are not perfect. Just like me, you and everyone you know. I am finally embracing my cards; the people that are suppose to be in my life and the people that are not (Superman’s Kryptonite) and simply trying to enjoy exactly what I have – right now, today, in this moment. That is where my effort is going and where it shall stay. I pray the same for you.
peace & God bless
tjd
